Words speak louder than actions

Just so you know where I’m coming from-I’m a white middle-class, middle-aged, married, evangelical Christian mother.

I finally got a chance to read through a transcript of what was said on the infamous video of Trump and Bush.  My first reaction to it was “is this what all the uproar is about???”  Other than a couple of the specific words used, I’ve heard worse that this on prime time network TV and daytime talk shows (Jerry Springer was the Democratic mayor of Cincinnati). 

Just looking at what was said, how many of you reading this can honestly say you haven’t at some point had a similar conversation with your friends?  I’m not just talking about men either-most of the women I know have had a version of those conversations too (it wasn’t men buying those 125 million copies of Fifty Shades of Grey).  For everyone to be feigning outrage over this tape is hypocritical. 

The standards of what is acceptable have been getting lower and lower as more and more could be shown and said on network TV.  How many of you remember that the sound of Archie Bunker’s toilet flushing was the first time a toilet was heard on air?  Lucy and Ricky slept in separate beds and the Brady’s didn’t even have a toilet.  Now you get to see the conversation between the guys at the urinals (sometimes having the same discussion that’s causing such a stir now) or the couple who just hooked up very obviously having sex.  I won’t even get started on the rap music I hear on the radio stations my teenage daughter listens too.  This video came out of that Hollywood environment where anything goes, not out of the political environment he is in now where he has to come across as professional and dignified (unless you’re Hillary where anything still goes).

Another thing from the video that the media isn’t mentioning is that he totally turned off the frat boy talk when Ms. Zucker joined the conversation.  Bush was the obnoxious one from that point on. Trump was friendly but nothing out of line, even mentioning his wife when asked if he wanted a hug.  That demonstrates that Trump knows what not to say and when not to say it which is a vital quality in a president.  Hopefully, he’ll have the sense not to say things when there is a microphone around like Obama’s comment to Russian President Dmitry Medvedev: "This is my last election. After my election I have more flexibility."  I find that much more frightening and offensive than Trump’s “locker room” talk.

The most disturbing thing is all of the republicans who have jumped on the bandwagon to distance themselves from Trump and call for him to step down.  Paul Ryan had an immediate response to the video: "I am sickened by what I heard today. Women are to be championed and revered, not objectified. I hope Mr. Trump treats this situation with the seriousness it deserves and works to demonstrate to the country that he has greater respect for women than this clip suggests."

Personally, I find Ryan’s comment more sexist that Trump’s.  To me it smacks of the “let’s put the little woman on a pedestal-she needs a big, brave man to defend her because she’s too weak to do it herself” mentality that I thought we as women have been fighting against for decades.   I don’t want to be “championed and revered” just because I’m a member of the “weaker sex” any more than I want to be objectified because I’m a woman.  Sexist remarks from Trump, especially ones from ten years ago, aren’t going to destroy this country if he’s elected president.  That was proved during Bill Clinton’s presidency where he didn’t just talk that way, he acted it!  

All of the things that have come out against Trump are nothing compared to the skeletons in Hillary’s closet but the media is doing its best to make sure that you don’t see it that way.  One of the newspapers I read Saturday demonstrated this perfectly.  The Trump video was the front page story while news of the release of more emails from Hillary was stuck on the back page.  The only reason I even noticed it was because the Trump story continued to the back page next to it.  

Don’t let the media steer us to who they think we should vote for.  What you can do to fight this is to get out there on November 8^th and vote for Trump.  Yes, he is a flawed candidate but those flaws are what make him a strong candidate who can beat Hillary.  I know that I’m not perfect but how many of us are?  He has the ideas that can pull this country back from the edge of the abyss we’ve been heading for.  Let’s give him a chance to prove it! There are so many things that Hillary is wrong on that we can't take a chance on giving her that much power.

If we roll over and let Hillary win because of this unimportant issue, we really have proven that words speak louder than actions.

#NeverHillary!